Everyone thinks a happy married life lead to forgive your partner and forget all past mistakes. It may be a past thing and now getting angry can be the best way to safe your marriage.
To solve marriage relationship problems, then forgive is not only way to handle these. Forgiveness in marriage may actually build up resentment and can have some unintended negative effects, James McNulty, associate professor at the University of Tennessee, found, a source report.
“We all experience a time in a relationship in which a partner transgresses against us in some way. For example, a partner may be financially irresponsible, unfaithful, or unsupportive,” McNulty said.
Further added, “When these events occur, we must decide whether we should be angry and hold onto that anger, or forgive.”
Forgiving persons are probably accepting their partner’s mistakes, but actually they are much anger holding and less likely to offend that partner than disagreeable people who express their feeling through anger.
On basis of several studies, Anger is the best way to express disagree situations hitting conversation, but honest conversation.
If one side continuous efforts are made to resolving the problems, to save the relationship, it would likely to negatively affect the relationship. Only those who express anger and temporarily withholding forgiveness may experience a long happy marriage.
There is no single answer of problems in our relationships, depending on the circumstances, while not a fixed thing that force to think or behave in a relationship, he added.
